Celebrities are just people who have found a way to become famous.
Dear Rishi: Do you think celebrities have crushes on celebrities? And do you think they're the same as “everyday” people having crushes on celebrities? Also, do you think it's possible for ordinary people to date their favorite celebrities?
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yes…. And no. Celebrities are simply people who have found a way to become famous through, for example, sports, music, or acting. So, of course, they can have unrequited love for other people. Ariana Grande famously said that her first love was Jim Carrey. Reese Witherspoon has admitted that she's in love with Johnny Depp. And Matthew McConaughey revealed his crush on Reese Witherspoon.
Why not? A crush is a crush, unless and until it becomes an obsession. It's unhealthy.
And indeed, anyone can fall in love with anyone if they meet in person. Matt Damon married a woman he met at a bar. Juliana Margulies married a lawyer. To name a few partnerships, both famous and not-so-famous: Meryl Streep was married to a sculptor. But the people we end up marrying are the people we meet and spend time with, so we need to be close to our favorite celebrities to have a chance to meet them and spend time with them.
Dear Rishi: My niece was coming to Japan by plane and was planning to use my home as a base and travel around my area. She's a lovely girl, smart, ambitious, fun and gorgeous. I was really looking forward to spending quality time with her and her young children getting to know her more.
Unfortunately, her flight was canceled and then delayed, and her new arrival time was midday during the work week. Change was problematic because I was in the middle of a big project, but we both had no choice but to go with the flow. I went to the airport to pick her up and she waited and waited.
She finally staggers through the door and catches the arm of a young man, quite inebriated. I think she was shocked by the look on my face when she found me. Because she immediately vomited into a nearby flowerpot.
I helped her to the car and took her home, where I spent the rest of the day holding her hair so she wouldn't vomit on my bed. Losing most of her work time and stressing her co-workers and the rest of the week. And I lost respect for her niece.
Should I tell my brother and sister-in-law or wait and see if this was a one-off? I'm now worried about her presence at home and whether I can travel without an adult. Masu.
What is my position here?
a dismayed aunt
You didn't mention your niece's age, but I think she was probably in her young 20s, on a summer trip between college studies. Or maybe part of a gap year. In my opinion, today's world is not safe for young women to travel alone, walk alone at night, or stay in hotels and hostels alone. It's sad and disappointing, but that's how I feel.
A young girl/woman who was flying alone catches the attention of a young man and they start drinking together. As the altitude increased, the alcohol became more intense, and now she was drunk. I'm surprised the flight attendants didn't pay more attention, but I'm not to blame.
I recommend spending a few days with your niece before she leaves. If she's feeling really embarrassed, embarrassed, remorseful, and acting in ways you would consider “normal,” give her a break. Youth is a time to make mistakes and learn life lessons, if it's safe to do so.
However, if she seems different than expected, it's probably a good idea to call your brother to get a clearer picture.
feedback About a frustrated husband (January 29th, March 18th):
Reader – If this husband lives in Toronto, “actively” getting annoyed by complaining to the appropriate officials won’t help. She does this regularly and it just gets more and more frustrating. The ordinance is just a facade (although parking is one area the city is actively working on). If you complain about multiple issues, you'll be labeled a nuisance who can be safely ignored.
Vote? It's also not very helpful, at least when you're talking about local neighborhood issues. And if your complaint involves a bank, cable company, or other large organization, you're better off banging your head against a wall in hopes of the relief that awaits you when you finally stop. .
Lisi – Your last sentence made me laugh out loud, but sadly your words ring true.
Rishi Tescher is a Toronto-based advice columnist. To submit a question, [email protected]
